FREQUENTLY ASKED SEXUAL
QUESTIONS
Question 1
Dear Zee Virtual
Media, I have been following
your progress since your
inception a year ago. First
of all, I want to
congratulate you on your
phenomenal progress and
commitment to sex education.
We have seen you introduce
some really exotic products
into the Nigerian market and
most recently, love
furniture. Well done. Are
you at any point going to
begin dating services?
Your biggest fan,
Joe
Dear
Joe, thank you so much for
your readership and support.
The idea of a dating service
is one that I have been
thinking about. I know how
vital it can be because I
have friends overseas who
met and married their
spouses on the internet. So
it works and good things can
come out of it. The idea is
one that I have been
refining and perfecting
before taking the decision
to introduce it. You see,
there is a thin line between
a dating service and
prostitution. If a dating
service is not well
structured and managed, one
can end up prostituting
people and that is not what
we do at Zee Virtual Media.
But the idea of a great
dating service is one that
appeals to me. It reminds me
of old fashioned match
making that our parents and
ancestors practiced which is
wonderful. Not everybody has
the opportunity or courage
to work up to a total
stranger and initiate a
conversation that they hope
will lead to a romantic
relationship. So dating
services definitely make the
process of finding a lover a
lot easier. I will be glad
to introduce a version of
dating service that will
help people all over the
country. But it must be
decent, safe and lawful as
usual. I am working on it.
Question 2
Dear Dr. Uche, I am a
forty two year old married
man and I am very curious
about the subject of
satisfying women. To cut a
long story short, how does
one know when a woman is
sexually satisfied? One
thing is for sure. Women
themselves find it difficult
providing this answer.
Mr. Paul
Dear
Paul, thanks for your mail.
This is such an important
question you have raised
because sexual performance
and satisfaction is a
subject that resonates with
all adults. The most
difficult part of this
subject is that women
themselves hardly talk about
sex and generally shy away
from the subject even after
marriage. A lot of the
people whose wives and girl
friends have cheated on them
in the past on the grounds
of unsatisfactory sex
probably didn’t know they
were not satisfying their
female partners. This is
what I always tell people.
Just to ensure that sexual
satisfaction will never be
an issue between the two of
you, buy her a vibrator and
an orgasm gel for a start.
She can always supplement
with her sex toy if she is
not getting enough from you.
It is better than cheating.
Adult toys are practical and
very effective in dealing
with such issues. Secondly,
make no assumptions about
your sexual skill. Step up
your sexual skills and
general knowledge by
investing in books and
movies. No other person will
teach you these things.
Thirdly, pay attention.
Always remember that it
takes women a longer time to
climax during intercourse.
During love making, pursue a
balanced goal which is
mutual sexual enjoyment. If
penetrative intercourse
pleasures men the most, it
is clitoral stimulation that
really gets women off.
Invest also in performance
enhancing products such as
the Marathon Cream, Stay
Hard Cream and the Love
Stuff All Night Long
Erection Cream. Women
occasionally make fun of men
due to their inability to
last longer than four
minutes during intercourse.
The above products will make
a big difference by delaying
your ejaculation and buying
you valuable minutes of
performance time. Finally,
remember that romance is
very important to women, so
be romantic as often as you
can. Romance doesn’t always
have to do with buying her
stuff. It is about paying
attention and making her
feel loved and attended to.
Women love attention. So, if
you are able to do the
above, you will do just
fine. Chances are that the
issue of sexual
dissatisfaction will never
come up in your
relationship.
Uche
Question 3
Dear Mr. Uche, thank
you for your wonderful
articles. Any week you fail
to publish, I panic. Please
make sure you don’t miss. My
question is, how does one
stop a man from cheating? My
relationship is young and I
am a bit possessive because
I worry about my boy friend
cheating on me. Please reply
and don’t use my real name.
Gladys
Dear
Gladys, thanks for your
mail. When I publish these
questions and answers for
the benefit of our readers,
I never use the real names
of any of the people making
enquiries, for the sake of
their privacy. The sexual
concerns of individuals is a
private matter and we try to
keep it that way. Let me
first say that the issue you
have raised is a very major
one. Infidelity is real and
very common. Why do men
cheat? The reasons are too
many but generally speaking,
men are genetically
predisposed to seek out more
than one sexual partner. As
controversial as this might
sound, it is the truth. Man
is not monogamous by nature.
Monogamy is an acquired
culture, a life style man
has been trained to embrace
and hopefully perfect. But
it is difficult to cheat
nature because fidelity does
not come naturally. It
requires a lot of work,
discipline and even
spiritual strength. That is
precisely why our ancestors
married more than one woman.
The rationale behind
polygamy is that rather than
cheat on your wife just
because you are seeking
sexual variety, you might as
well marry more than one
wife and legitimise the life
style of having more than
one woman. Of course
polygamy has its own
problems too so I am not
about to recommend it.
So my dear, men are
polygamous by nature but
that doesn’t justify the
cruelty of infidelity. It
just explains it. I could
give you a million other
reasons why men cheat, which
will largely focus on sexual
dissatisfaction but that
still will not fully explain
man’s infidelity. There are
a lot of men who are in very
satisfying relationships and
still cheat. Why? Because
they are men. The urge will
always be there. Self
control does not come
naturally. It requires a lot
of practice and discipline.
However, there are a few
things a woman can do in
order to narrow down the
risks of her lover cheating
on her. First of all, don’t
be stingy with sex. Be
generous. Secondly, try not
to use sex to punish your
boyfriend or husband when he
offends you. It almost
always backfires. Thirdly,
buy him a sex toy,
preferably a masturbator. It
is practical and very
effective in relieving men
of sexual tension and the
perpetual need to get off
through sex. One thing is
for certain, no matter how
generous you are in bed, men
can never get enough. It is
their nature. Best wishes.
Uche
Question 4
Dear Zee Virtual
Media, thank you so much for
your awesome article last
week. I am addicted to Mr.
Edochie’s articles now and I
am his fan for life. I have
been wondering weather sex
without penetration is
considered sex. Is it? I am
an adult Christian woman in
my late twenties and I
believe in sex after
marriage. My religion
clearly disapproves of
premarital sex. But the
pressure is too much. When I
fall in love with a guy,
before too long, the issue
of sex comes up and I don’t
know what to do. I try to
avoid penetrative sex but
then I do everything else ….
I don’t know. Is there a
difference for instance
between vaginal intercourse
and oral sex? Please reply.
Thanks again and keep up the
good work.
Anita
Dear
Anita, thank you so much for
your mail. The issue you
raised is a major one and it
bother’s the average
religious person. Let me
begin with sexual
definitions and by
definition, I am not just
talking about what the
dictionary says. Today,
there are all kinds of
sexual acts. There is oral
intercourse, vaginal
intercourse, rectal
intercourse, hand job, boob
job, foot job,
sadomasochism, bondage etc.
So why are all these sexual
acts considered intercourse
you might ask? That is
because they all have the
following in common:
a. They all involve the
genital stimulation of at
least one of the partners.
b. The participants derive
sexual pleasure from their
chosen type of intercourse.
c. The participants have
nothing but sex on their
minds during any of the
above activities.
Now this is my first point.
I quite understand your
dilemma; after all there are
different stages of physical
involvement between couples
that eventually lead to any
of the above sexual acts.
There is flirting, kissing,
touching and heavy petting
(smooching). I am sure you
and our multitude of readers
all have the same question
in mind. At what point in
any of these stages can one
be considered to have had
sex? Anita the problem with
bringing religion into sex
is that it is impossible to
have a rational and
satisfactory answer about
sex when you throw religion
into the mix. For instance,
I happen to know that the
Christian bible teaches that
if someone as much as thinks
about having sex, it is as
good as having had sex. Can
you see how complicated
things get when religion
comes into the matter? If
you really break it down,
there are two kinds of
people in this world.
a. Those who have had sex.
b. Those who are thinking
about having sex.
So, if we are to apply this
biblical teaching to the
above groups of people,
there is really no
difference between them
since they both attract the
same degree of condemnation.
So where does that leave us?
You know what I personally
think? There is an Ibo
proverb that says that if
you are going to eat a frog,
you might as well eat a big
one. The implication of this
proverb is that it is all
the same thing. However, if
you want to know what I
think you should do, all I
can say is, do what your
heart tells you. The
implications are all the
same. If you are not having
sex, you are obviously
thinking about it. So what’s
the difference? I wish you
the best.
Uche
Question 5
Dear Zee, good day. I
was circumcised earlier in
life so I do not enjoy sex.
Unlike me, my husband’s
sexual drive is very high.
What can I do to enjoy sex
again? Thanks.
Anonymous
Dear
Anonymous, thanks for your
mail. My sincere apologies
for this inhuman act carried
out on you. Like I keep on
saying, it is criminal to
deprive another human being
the ability to ever enjoy
sex. I guess that is one of
the consequences of
illiteracy. The people who
carry out this female
circumcision claim it will
stop women from being
promiscuous which is
ridiculous. By the same
token, they might as well
cut off the hands of their
children too so that they
may never steal. What is the
difference? You cannot chop
off part of an innocent
child’s body because of
something they MAY do when
they grow up! Attraction is
a mental thing. Sexual
attraction begins from the
mind and the last time I
checked, the human brain is
not located on the genitals!
Sexual desire can never be
eliminated from the human
system so circumcision is
pointless and very
destructive. Again I
sympathise with you and I
know how this must have
affected your marriage. The
clitoris in a woman’s body
contains the highest
concentration of nerve
endings. It serves no other
biological purpose but to
give women sexual pleasure
when stimulated and by the
way, women all over the
world have a right to enjoy
sex as much as men do.
Anyway, here is what you can
do. There is a secondary G
Spot located on the vaginal
roof (about an inch into the
entrance). Stimulating this
spot, especially with a G
Spot vibrator or a rabbit
vibrator gives women
pleasure too. You and your
husband should explore that
and I wish you the best in
your married life.
Best
wishes.
Uche
Question 5
Dear Zee Virtual
Media, thank you for your
terrific articles. Your MD
is a devoted and intelligent
man and he talks a lot of
sense. My friends and I want
your products. I am a middle
aged woman in my forties and
I do not use the internet. I
want a vibrator and an
orgasm gel. I have read
about them for months now
and all my life I have
focused on taking care of my
husband’s needs and my kids.
I think mummy deserves to
take care of her self too.
How can I shop with you and
have my products delivered
to me? Thank you and keep up
the good work.
Gladys
Dear
Gladys, thank you so much
for your support and
compliments. Anybody who is
an adult can actually shop
with us, with or without the
internet. You can always
call us on the phone and
place your orders. The
beauty of the internet is
that you get to see ALL of
our products and then make a
choice. But in the absence
of the internet, our
customer service personnel
will advice you on what
vibrator best fits your
budget and needs over the
phone. We have over twenty
different types of sex toys
for women and our users love
them all. As for delivery,
we bring your orders to you
well gift wrapped and put
them in your hands. Except
you instruct us to deliver
to someone on your behalf,
we deliver to you and you
alone. If you are outside
Lagos, then all you have to
do is to pay into our
account and you will receive
your products within forty
eight hours of payment. Some
people wonder how they can
place orders from outside
Lagos but about fifty
percent of our business
actually comes from outside
Lagos. We cover the whole of
Nigeria from here and
everybody who has ever
ordered from us received
their products. Some first
time clients panic about
paying for something before
receiving it but guess what?
That is the nature of
internet shopping all over
the world. It is payment
before deliver everywhere
you go on the internet. You
are paying money into our
Zee Virtual Media bank
account after which you are
issued a teller by the bank
which is the equivalent of
your receipt. Under such a
circumstance, you are
protected. Nobody will take
your money and run. Zee
Virtual Media is a
registered and traceable
business. Your teller is
your proof of payment and
therefore protects you
against fraud. That is why I
structured bank payments for
clients outside Lagos for
their peace of mind. Thanks
again and have a great day.
Best
wishes.
Uche
Question 6
I am Hassan from
Bauchi. What will happen if
I am not wearing a condom
during sex?
Hassan
Dear
Hassan, thanks for your
question which now seems
very strange in today’s
world. I am sure you must
have heard at some point
that unprotected sex brings
about unwanted pregnancies
and subjects you to the
dangers of contacting fatal
sexually transmitted
diseases such as HIV,
Syphilis, genital warts etc.
Please use a condom always.
Uche
Question 7
Please what drugs should
someone be taking to be
sexually healthy? Please
text me back. Thanks.
Anonymous.
Dear
Anonymous, thanks for your
mail. Zee Virtual Media does
not sell prescription drugs.
We are not a pharmacy.
However we have very good
herbal supplements that
boost sexual performance in
men and women. One of them
is called Adam’s Desire and
the other is Vahard. We also
have Herbal Viva (for
women). They are all very
good. Call or visit our
site,
www.zeevirtualmedia.com for
more details.
Best
wishes.
Uche
Question 8
Good day sir. You are a
blessing! I just spent the
past three hours on your
website viewing, printing
and reading your articles on
sex education. No amount of
words I write will express
my appreciation and
gratefulness for your
teachings (delivered in a
creative, entertaining and
reasonable manner). Your
wife especially and your
friends are privileged to
have you in their lives. I
pray that many more people
learn from you. I will
surely do my best to spread
the news about you. Please
keep up the excellent work.
Tony
Dear
Tony, thank you so much for
all your compliments. We
love and appreciate feed
back at Zee Virtual Media
because that’s the ultimate
indication of the
effectiveness of our
message. Thank you and guess
what? Even the Nigerian
government feels the same
way. They called some time
ago to say that they have
been following Zee Virtual
media and that they are
impressed. I feel good about
that too because I know that
generally speaking, sex
scares people. A lot of
people distance themselves
from sexual subjects because
they are scared that
something bad is going to
come out of it. The truth of
the matter is that any
subject whatsoever can be
discussed in a meaningful,
beneficial and non vulgar
manner and that is what I
try to do every week in
these articles and
frequently asked sexual
questions. I am glad that
our message resonates very
well with our readers and
the Nigerian people in
general. Thank you so much
for all your support.
Periodically, new articles
will be uploaded on the
website as well.
Uche
Question 9
I am 24years old. I have not
had sex nor a date with a
girl in my life. Even when
girls come close to me, I
cannot talk to them. Please
I want your advice on how to
date and have sex with a
girl. Thanks
Joshua
Dear
Joshua, thank you for your
courage. You speak from the
heart. Most people who have
this problem will not admit
it but you did and you will
gain by doing so. I want to
talk to you about women in
general. Forget about sex
for now. If you understand
women, the sex part will
naturally resolve itself
when you are ready. We have
all manner of books and
films on learning about
great sex at
www.zeevirtualmedia.com.
This is what you need to
know. Women are nervous too.
They are human beings like
you and they are not all as
cool as they appear. Infact
when you get to know a few
of them, you will realise
that some of them are not
that interesting. You must
learn to make good
conversation. That is the
first thing. It is not going
to be easy in the beginning
but it gets easier with
time. Do you know why girls
play hard to get most of the
time? It is not because they
are not excited about being
chased or loved. They are
very excited. They just
don’t want to appear cheap.
We all know that when a girl
comes too easily, we will
not value her. Women know it
too and they want to be
valued, appreciated and
respected. Even the women
who tell you that they don’t
need a man in their lives
want to be loved too. What
you have to do is to be
bold, relaxed and
interesting. Also learn to
listen and know how to
react. Guys often talk too
much about themselves when
on a first date. Ration your
words. Ask her questions and
draw her out too. Women love
to talk so learn to listen.
These are some of the things
women look out for in a man.
If you are scared, you will
turn them off so be bold.
And when you are in the
presence of a girl, don’t
wear that look on your face
that says, ‘You are so
beautiful that I want to
have sex with you’. Women
don’t like that. Remember
that all their lives, men
have been trying to sleep
with them so they are
naturally on the defensive
and suspicious. They love
sex too, but they want more.
They want to know that you
are not after them for sex
alone. So be courageous,
interesting and friendly.
When you are with a woman
you like, let her know and
be nice, polite and
respectful. Show interest
but control your excitement.
Give off that vibe that
says, ‘I am interested in
you but I have other options
too’. Here is something you
need to know. Women are very
attracted to men who are
already in relationships.
Absolutely. Their thinking
is that if another woman
likes you enough to date
you, then you are worth
dating. So relax. Don’t make
it a big deal. Girls are
human. They don’t bite. They
play hard to get initially
and it’s all a game. But
they love the chase and
attention. There are more
women than men in this world
and eligible bachelors are
scarce. Do the math. Women
are the ones who panic the
most about not having
someone in their lives
especially when they are in
their late twenties. Trust
me when I say that every
woman wants to be in a
relationship. So take care
and take things easy. You
will be fine. Keep in touch.
I would like an update on
your progress.
Uche
Question 10
Dear Zee Virtual
Media, do your masturbators
function like the real
thing? Nowadays that my wife
is always tired at the end
of the day, I really need
one. How does it work and
how do I get one?
Anonymous
Dear
Anonymous, thank you for
your mail. Masturbators are
artificial sex toys for men,
a lot of which resemble the
real female sexual organ. A
lot of them are portable and
made of synthetic material
called cyber skin. Cyber
skin feels a lot like real
skin and is elastic too like
the real thing. But you need
a lubricant in order to use
it because unlike the human
body, plastic toys don’t
lubricate on their own.
Masturbators are very
helpful for men because they
enable you relieve yourself
of sexual tension without
having to cheat on your
wife. As you may know,
infidelity will not just
cost you your relationship
or marriage but you can also
catch life threatening
diseases in the process. As
for how you can get one,
just call Zee Virtual media
or visit our site,
www.zeevirtualmedia.com and
place your order. Simple as
that. We deliver to you
wherever you are.
Best
wishes.
Uche
Question 11
Dear Mr. Uche, I have been
in a relationship with my
girl friend for five years.
We do not live in the same
city. I am in Lagos and she
is in Port Harcourt. Do I
necessarily need to practice
safe sex with her? Please
let me know.
George
Dear George, thanks for your
mail. The issue of
protection during sex is a
very serious one. The
problem with trusting people
that much is that you never
really know what anybody is
up to. You sound like a
decent and informed chap and
you may even be a faithful
lover as well. But what
about your girl friend? How
faithful is she? I am sure
you cannot tell for certain.
Long distance relationships
are not trust worthy. People
get lonely and begin to see
other people secretly. It is
very common both amongs
married and unmarried
people. Have you both taken
the HIV test lately? If not,
how then do you know if you
are positive or negative?
Look, just use a condom and
minimise the risk. That is
the safest option on the
table. Some partners
perceive this as a lack of
trust and will be offended
if you want to use a condom
with them. But your priority
should be protecting your
self. That is what smart
people do. By the way you
should both take the HIV
test. Take care.
Uche
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Question 12
Mr. Edochie hello, good day
and thanks for your
articles. They have been
very helpful. I got married
last weekend and my honey
moon is in two weeks time. I
want to take my wife to
Obudu Cattle Ranch. The
problem however is that I am
very anxious. I want to put
up a great performance, if
you know what I mean. I have
heard of different kinds of
penis enlargers and I hear
that your products work very
well. But you see, I also
happen to know that penis
enlargement takes time. I
need something that can give
instant results. Time is
running out. Do you have
anything like that? Please
let me know. I want to show
this woman pepper! Wish me
luck. Thanks.
John
John hello, thanks for your
mail. You just made me laugh
so hard. So you want to show
her pepper? Well, it is
legal. She is your wife now.
We have an instant penis
enlarger called the Dick
Plumper. It basically adds
thickness to your member
within minutes of
application. But the result
only lasts for a few hours
which is okay. You can
always re-apply the cream
another day just before
intercourse. Visit
www.zeevirtualmedia.com and
place your order or call the
numbers below. Good luck
with your honey moon. You
will be fine, don’t worry.
There are other great
products that you should
have with you which will
help your love making a
great deal as well. A
massage lotion is very
important. It is romantic,
women love it and it helps
put them in the mood. Ask
for the Making Love Massage
Lotion or the Kamasutra
Massage Lotion. You also
need an orgasm gel for your
wife and an erection
enhancer for your self. For
your wife, get the Liquid
Sex orgasm lubricant and for
yourself, get the Love Stuff
All Night erection cream or
the Marathon cream. You want
to show her pepper, right?
Then you definitely need an
erection enhancer. Buy her a
silver bullet too. It is a
very effective and
affordable vibrator. Take
care John.
Uche
Question 13
Zee hello, I need an
erection enhancer that will
arouse me when I need to
have intercourse, but I am
diabetic. What will you
recommend for me? thanks.
Edwin
Dear Edwin, there is a
product called the
Dickalicious Penis arousal
gel. It is great for
diabetic patients and it
helps give an erection when
you apply it. It is also
edible and perfect for oral
sex. Women love the taste
especially the banana and
coconut flavours. Another
product that I will
recommend for you is a toy,
not a supplement. It is
called a penile extension. A
penile extension is
basically a fake penis worn
over your own penis. It was
designed to enable men with
weak erections or no
erections at all carry on
intercourse with their loved
ones. It is also a product
that any man can use. Thanks
to this product, the love
you are making does not have
to come to an end when you
ejaculate. You can wear this
penile extension after
ejaculation in order to
continue your love making
session until your wife
climaxes as well. It is a
great novelty.
Best wishes.
Uche
Question 14
Dear Mr. Edochie,
thank you so much for your
enlightening weekly articles
and question and answer
sessions. Nobody has to
worry about sexual
performance anymore because
Zee Virtual Media has all
the answers. Well done. Have
you ever considered opening
a Shag Academy where people
can take lessons on how to
have great sex? I think you
should open something like
that. I will be your number
one student and a model
student for that matter!
Keep it up.
Joy
Dear Joy, thanks for your
mail. The idea of such an
institution is a nice one.
Perhaps in the future, one
might consider something
like that after discussing
with the authorities. Sex is
such a sensitive subject
that I am not sure anybody
can just open a school where
people are taught how to
have sex. But it is a great
idea. Zee Virtual media is
working on sex education
seminars for the future
though. Thank you.
Best wishes.
Uche
Question 15
Dear Zee Virtual
Media, what do women want? I
am tired. Somebody please
tell me? My wife is driving
me crazy!
Mr. Effiong
Dear Effiong, women are
never direct with their
sexual needs. But I can
recommend products that can
help you shed some light on
what they want. We have new
education al movies now such
as What Women Want and More
of What Women Want. Buy any
of these movies and learn
more. A vibrator for your
wife is also a good idea.
But apart from buying sex
products, pend some time
with her and just talk.
Learn to listen too. Many a
time, women just want to be
heard. They need someone to
talk to. They like to talk a
lot. You have to learn how
to pretend to listen, even
if you don’t care about what
they are saying. That’s life
my friend. Some things are
just not that simple. Women
love attention. They want to
hear that you love them all
the time. They also need to
be complimented on their
clothes, make up and
everything else. Just do
these things. It will not
solve all the mysteries of
women but it will help a
great deal. Take care.
Best wishes.
Uche
Question 16
Zee hello, my wife has
been demanding for oral sex
lately but I don’t feel
comfortable about it. It
must be because of the odour
down there. Please how do I
get her to stop asking for
oral sex?
Mazi Chukwueke
Mazi hello, thanks for your
mail. Oral sex is actually
one of the most enjoyable
female sexual experiences of
all time. Depriving your
wife of this experience is a
bad idea. This is what you
can do. There is a product
called Feminine Fresh Wipes.
It is a pack of scented
aphrodisiac wipes that do
two things. First of all
they freshen women up when
used, leaving them clean and
beautifully scented.
Secondly, they stimulate the
female organ as well,
thereby making intercourse
very enjoyable for them.
Just buy her this product
and it will take care of
your concerns. Don’t be
scared of new experiences.
It is safe, provided this
sexual encounter is with a
trusted partner who does not
sleep around. Take care.
Best wishes.
Uche
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Question 17
Mr. Edochie hello,
good day. Thank you so much
for your publications. I
love your website. I logged
unto your site to buy a
vibrator the other day and
saw so many of them. Now I
don’t know which one to
choose. Please tell me which
one is the best. Thanks.
Okey
Okey
hello, thanks for your mail.
For the realistic vibrators,
the Afro Wooper Vibrator is
the best. For the rabbit
vibrators, the Jack Rabbit
is the best we have. Combine
them with good orgasm gels
and movies and you will be
blown away.
Hello, please what can I do
about painful intercourse?
Anoymous
Dear Anonymous there are
usually three major causes
of sexual pain.
a. Inadequate lubrication.
b. Dyspeurinia
c. Vaginismus
The very first cause of
sexual pain can be easily
treated with a good
lubricant. Call Zee Virtual
Media and ask for Probe
Lubricant, Climax Fruit Bomb
or Colt lubricant. As for
the other causes, you will
have to see your doctor for
medical treatment. Urinary
tract infection is also
another cause of sexual
pain.
Best
wishes.
Uche
Question 18
Dear Mr. Edochie, how
are you? I hope you are
doing okay. I love your
articles and I wanted to ask
you about something. Your
opinions on issue are
usually honest and
straightforward and I
appreciate that. Before my
wife and I got married five
years ago, I was dating this
other girl who later left
the country for her master’s
degree. I really loved her,
but it was my wife that I
eventually married-
obviously. This other past
flame and I remained in
touch and she eventually
came back to Nigeria about a
year ago. I still have very
strong feelings for her and
we exchange what is more or
less love notes or letters.
My wife recently came across
one of my letters to this
other woman and went crazy.
Now she says I don’t love
her because I happen to also
have feelings for someone
else. Even though most
people will not admit to it
but my question is, isn’t it
possible to love more than
one person at a time? I keep
on hearing that it is not
possible but I have my own
experiences to counter that.
What is your opinion on the
subject. Cheers man.
Tony
Dear Tony, thank you for
your mail. I like questions
like yours. They are real,
educational and they make us
think. Most of the time,
people would rather avoid
telling the truth about how
they feel because a lie is
safe and comfortable. Of
course it is possible to
love more than one person.
That is exactly what you are
experiencing and a lot of
people go through the exact
same thing, at different
times in their lives. You
see, love cannot be
programmed and it cannot be
rationed either. It just
happens. It is a feeling.
You don’t exactly wake up
one day and say, ‘Today, I
am going to fall in love’.
It just happens and many a
time, it happens several
times with different people.
That is life my friend. That
is reality. But then we
cannot date or marry
everybody we love because it
creates multiple problems
too. The reason we profess
love to just one person
(whether it be wife, girl
friend, husband, or boy
friend), is to make them
feel at ease and secure. We
also do this in order to
keep our relationships and
marriages together. We hide
our true feelings because it
complicates things, besides,
whoever said that the truth
shall set you free,
definitely was not referring
to relationships. So, we
don’t always tell the truth
about love. I feel your pain
my friend. Yes you can be in
love with more than one
person. What about those who
marry more than one wife?
Can they be accused of not
loving their wives, and if
so, who gets to determine
the wives they love and the
ones they don’t, and how
exactly do they determine
that? I have come to realise
that in life, certain points
of view are widely promoted
because they seem easier to
digest but nothing in life
is simple. I also dare to
say that the idea of true
love being limited to one
person must be a product of
western thinking because our
ancestors married several
wives, which certainly
contradicts that point of
view.
Uche
Question 19
Dear Uche, thank you
for your articles. Sometimes
it feels too good to be
real. Honest discussions
about sex and relationships
are usually things we read
about in foreign magazines.
But somehow, you managed to
make it possible here in
Nigeria. Well done. I have a
question. Typically, the
love making process involves
a lot of kissing, touching
etc. I love to stimulate my
wife with my fingers or
tongue, both of whom are
legitimate sexual acts
commonly refered to as
‘fingering’ and ‘oral sex
respectively’. She doesn’t
like any of it. The absence
of these preparatory acts in
our love making routine just
leaves me totally
dissatisfied and frustrated.
Too many restrictions…she is
always saying, ‘Don’t do
this and don’t do that.
Don’t touch me here and
don’t touch me there…’ Sex
is not fun with her
nowadays. What can I do
about this? Thanks.
Robert
Dear
Robert, thank you for your
mail. Welcome to the
familiar world of married
people. What you are going
through is called ‘being
married’. You see,
typically, before you get
married, your fiancée is
eager to try new things with
you. She is eager to please
you and present herself as
being a lot of fun in bed.
At that stage, her position
in your life is still shaky.
She has not officially
become your wife. When
however she becomes ‘Mrs.
Robert’, everything changes.
It is not like that with
everybody but most people
virtually complain about
this same thing. This is a
tough one. I am eager to
find a quick fix for you
but, I am coming up short.
Issues like this require
going back to the drawing
board. What you need is
couple’s therapy. If a
professional does not tell
her bluntly that her bedroom
attitude is ruining your sex
life, it will be difficult
for you to move forward on
the subject. In order to fix
things between the two of
you, we need her on board.
We need an acknowledgement
from her that something is
wrong and that help is
needed. For now, I can only
recommend books, movies and
toys. Whether or not she
will be willing to go
through these materials with
you, is a totally different
issue. But you have to start
somewhere. Go for the
following products: What Men
Want (educational movie),
Bad Wives (feature movie),
Foreplay Book and a
vibrator. I recommend these
products because a lot of
the things she has problems
doing are very common place.
The idea is that if she sees
people like her doing these
same things in every scene
and sexual sequence in a
book or movie, then she
gradually begins to see them
as crucial and inevitable
aspects of love making. Let
us hope that she is willing
to learn something new. Take
care.
Uche
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Question 20
Dear Uche, I have been
married for twelve years
now. I guess it is safe to
say that we have been doing
the same thing over and over
again and I am bored. What
can I do to spice up my
marriage? Thanks.
Mrs. Chuwkurah
Dear Mrs. Chukwurah, thank
you for your mail. Generally
speaking, there is nothing
sexier than a sexually
confident and adventurous
woman who loves to share. If
you fit that description,
then there is so much that
you and your husband can do.
Begin with bedroom sex
games. At Zee Virtual Media,
we have different games such
as the Dart Game, the Loving
Game and Romance Roulette
game to name a few. You see,
the fun is in the
unpredictability. Imagine
entering the bedroom and not
knowing exactly what you
will end up doing? You can
start by playing a game that
involves throwing a dart,
and acting out whatever
sexual instruction or
position that the dart falls
on. Or you can do something
that you have never done
before, like being hand
cuffed to the kitchen sink
while your husband does
things to you that I cannot
mention here. This of course
you can only do when it is
just the two of you at home.
You don’t want little junior
stumbling into you and
wondering what daddy’s
tongue is doing between
mummy’s legs. He will need
years of therapy to overcome
that one! And then of
course, there is the
vibrator. Have you ever used
a vibrator? You should try
one. Ask for the G Spot
vibrator. It is very
portable and great for G
Spot stimulation. Have you
ever made love while
watching an adult movie play
in the background? You can
give that a try or you can
write and act out short
silly stories about police
and thief, or the Cow Boy
and the horny village Indian
girl. Look, there are all
kinds of fun and silly
things that you and your
husband can do, many of
which are too descriptive
for me to mention here. Just
visit our website at
www.zeevirtualmedia.com and
see what we have. Take care
and best wishes.
Uche
Question 21
Mr. Edochie, hello.
Thank you for your amazing
articles. We are still
waiting for your book. I
have a problem. I suffer
from week erection and I
have high blood pressure. I
know about the herbal
supplements Vahard and
Adam’s Desire because you
have done a wonderful job
telling us about these
products. I also know that
you have mentioned that
diabetic people and those
who suffer from high blood
pressure are not advised to
take these supplements. So
what can I do? Any hope for
me? I cannot have
intercourse with my wife and
I feel her frustration. You
have to figure something
out. I beg you. Please write
me back. Well done.
Mr. Ajayi
Mr. Ajayi hello. Thanks for
your mail. Don’t worry, I
have a perfect product for
you. It is not a medicine.
It is a sex toy called a
Penile extension. It is like
a fake rubber penis with a
strap that you can wear and
have intercourse with a
woman for as long as you
want. Women love it and
those who suffer from a
similar condition are in
love with it too. Just call
my office and ask for a
Penile Extension. Even men
who want to last longer use
this particular product as
well because after
ejaculation, the sex does
not have to end there. You
can wear this product over
your organ and continue the
fun until you have an
erection again. It is
amazing. So, problem solved
for now. Here is something
else that I will do for you.
I will have my staff email
you the chemical components
of Adam’s Desire and Vahard
and you can run them by your
doctor. He will determine
whether or not you can take
them. You never know. Your
case may not be severe and
you might be able to take
one of these supplements you
need after all. Keep hope
alive and thanks for your
mail.
Best wishes.
Uche
Question 22
Uche hello. I want to last
for twenty or more minutes
before ejaculation. What’s
the name of your product
that can do that again? I
cannot use the internet.
Thanks.
Fola
Fola
hello, there are two types
of erection enhancers that
we have at the moment. One
of them is called Marathon
Cream while the other is
called the Stay Hard cream.
I have used all of them and
they are great. Take care.
Best wishes.
Uche
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